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femmadilemma:

benderqueer:

Here are two pictures of me.
The first picture is from college (for some reason I dyed my hair a different color red than my natural color) and I think this picture was taken about 4 or 5 years ago.
The second picture is recent. In both pictures I am binding.
Take a look at my facial expressions in these pictures.
In the first image, I remember setting up a camera and trying to look tough and/or masculine. I wore the binder inside my house only and was too afraid to go outside wearing it, I was afraid to admit my gender identity to anyone, including myself. It was a hard time for gendery feels.
In the second picture, I am happy. I’m making pancakes for my partner, I am more comfortable in my own skin. I see ME here, not a scared younger person. I’ve created my own masculinity and I am becoming more open to my gender exploration.
I want to share this because I want all the scared kids to know that it’s okay to be you. Here are some words:
A) You are allowed to have the feelings you have. You are a human and this is allowed. Even though it is hard, try not to feel guilty or ashamed.
B) I acknowledge that it sometimes can be really tough. Gender is hard. I would tell my scared old self this. I would tell them that it is a rough path but coming out on the other side of this fear is the most beautiful thing.
C) You’re wonderful. Look at yourself this way. Try to see yourself as the super amazing person that you are. Be you honestly with those you feel safe with. Those people can be on the internet if it’s hard to find them off of the net at the moment. You are a beautiful human being.
I cannot say that I’m perfect, I cannot say that I am not still scared at times. What I can say is that I have learned how to become accepting of myself, I have learned that there are so many things to love about me, and yes, my gender.
Your gender identity is great. Your gender can be whatever it is (binary or not, male or female or both or neither, or anything else) and that is okay. People who say otherwise are full of bull and their opinion of you is not worth your or anyone else’s time.
YOU ARE AMAZING.

My smoosh is on my dash!!!!!!
HELLO BEAUTIFUL BOY
swoon swoon swoon
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femmadilemma:

benderqueer:

Here are two pictures of me.

The first picture is from college (for some reason I dyed my hair a different color red than my natural color) and I think this picture was taken about 4 or 5 years ago.

The second picture is recent. In both pictures I am binding.

Take a look at my facial expressions in these pictures.

In the first image, I remember setting up a camera and trying to look tough and/or masculine. I wore the binder inside my house only and was too afraid to go outside wearing it, I was afraid to admit my gender identity to anyone, including myself. It was a hard time for gendery feels.

In the second picture, I am happy. I’m making pancakes for my partner, I am more comfortable in my own skin. I see ME here, not a scared younger person. I’ve created my own masculinity and I am becoming more open to my gender exploration.

I want to share this because I want all the scared kids to know that it’s okay to be you. Here are some words:

A) You are allowed to have the feelings you have. You are a human and this is allowed. Even though it is hard, try not to feel guilty or ashamed.

B) I acknowledge that it sometimes can be really tough. Gender is hard. I would tell my scared old self this. I would tell them that it is a rough path but coming out on the other side of this fear is the most beautiful thing.

C) You’re wonderful. Look at yourself this way. Try to see yourself as the super amazing person that you are. Be you honestly with those you feel safe with. Those people can be on the internet if it’s hard to find them off of the net at the moment. You are a beautiful human being.

I cannot say that I’m perfect, I cannot say that I am not still scared at times. What I can say is that I have learned how to become accepting of myself, I have learned that there are so many things to love about me, and yes, my gender.

Your gender identity is great. Your gender can be whatever it is (binary or not, male or female or both or neither, or anything else) and that is okay. People who say otherwise are full of bull and their opinion of you is not worth your or anyone else’s time.

YOU ARE AMAZING.

My smoosh is on my dash!!!!!!

HELLO BEAUTIFUL BOY

swoon swoon swoon

femmadilemma:

cigmond:

8bitrevolver:

This was meant to be a quick warm up, but it turned into a comic that I’ve wanted to draw for a while. This is something that is extremely important to me, and I appreciate it if you read it.

A while ago, I heard a story that broke my heart. A family went a cat shelter to adopt. The daughter fell in love with a 3-legged cat. The father straight up said “absolutely not”. Because he was missing a leg. That cat was that close to having a family that loved him, but the missing leg held him back. Why?!

Many people have the initial instinct of “nope” when they see an imperfect animal. I get it, but less-adoptable does NOT mean less loveable. 9 out of 10 people will choose a kitten over an adult cat. And those 10% that would get an adult cat often overlook “different” animals.

All I want people to do is be open to the idea of having a “different” pet in their lives. Choose the pet that you fall in love with, but at least give all of them a fair shot at winning your heart.

Don’t dismiss them, they deserve a loving home just as much as any other cat. They still purr, they still love a warm lap, they still play, they still love you. Trust me, next time you are in the market for a new kitty, just go over to that one cat that’s missing an eye and see what he’s all about!

I am tearing up at this. All the cats I have adopted have been special or too old for most people to want them. The first cat I ever adopted was Falcore, who was ten years old and had no ears due to cancer, and she was the sweetest, kindest cat and we had ten amazing, purry, snuggly happy months together before her cancer came back. Then I saw Zigmond in a shelter and he was 13 years old, and very shy hiding in the back of his cage. The people working at the shelter tried to talk me out of adopting him! They told me he would never be a lap cat, that he was too grumpy and old and that I should get a kitten instead. I insisted on Zigmond and he has been happily living with me (often on my lap, he sleeps on top of me every night) ever since. He has gone blind and he is nearly 18 years old but he is sweet, kind, loving and he makes me so happy. Even Garfield who was only five years old had been in the shelter for months and months because all the people adopting cats thought he was too old and wanted kittens. Tom and I adopted him and he is just wonderful. Whenever I am sad he sleeps on my pillow, curled up around my head purring and smiling at me. Please adopt older and ‘special’ cats, they don’t deserve to be put down while people overlook them for kittens.

sob

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